Deborah met her late husband Bruce Di Marsico when she was just beginning her studies as fine arts major at Morris County Community College in Dover, New Jersey. Falling in love with Bruce, she left her artistic pursuits to begin a new personal life with him and to immerse herself in the study of The Option Method as one of his original students. Deborah has been involved in Option Method for almost forty years, working with her husband during his lifetime, then continuing his legacy over the past 16 years. Deborah’s unique grasp and understanding of The Option Method affords us all a special opportunity to benefit from her intimate experience with Bruce and his teachings.
Since Bruce’s death, Deborah has worked to further Option Method teachings and disseminate Bruce’s writings and lectures. As a result of her efforts, students and teachers of The Option Method can read and hear Bruce’s words first-hand at www.ChooseHappiness.net, an archival site for Bruce Di Marsico’s writings and lectures. She continues to work on producing books and CDs, most recently a three-volume compilation of Bruce Di Marsico’s teachings, The Option Method: The Myth of Unhappiness. The Collected Works of Bruce Di Marsico on The Option Method and Attitude.
Interview with Deborah Mendel
What do you think is the best way to learn The Option Method?
The best way to learn The Option Method is through a dialogue with a teacher. The most profound experience I had was when I had my first Option Method dialogue with Bruce. To be with someone who is 100% non-judgemental, who will hold the flashlight as you walk your own path and help you keep on track is what the dialogue experience is like. A teacher will instruct you as to what questions to ask yourself in the process and guide you back to your true happy self.
What are your hopes for The Center?
I hope The Center for The Option Method will finally achieve what I believe was Bruce's life-long dream: to bring The Option Method and Attitude to as many people as possible; spreading the gift of the knowledge that we no longer need to feel as if we are victims of our emotional bad feelings and unhappiness.
What has The Option Method meant for you in your life?
The Option Method has forever changed how I see the world around me and how I emotionally respond to my own life's journey. I was headed down an unhappy road when I was first introduced to Bruce and Option. The Option Method gave me a foothold and pointed me in an entirely new direction.....towards happiness.
People become unhappy by choice, belief, or judgment. They make a choice of what they’re going…
People become unhappy by choice, belief, or judgment. They make a choice of what they’re going to believe. If they choose to believe it is good, they will feel good. If they choose to believe it is bad, they feel bad. Why am I using the word “choice”? It’s the only thing in life that you can absolutely be sure is not happening to you.[ Bruce Di Marsico ]