[ Declare your emotional independence ]

Archives.

Categories.

I was immediately stunned by the technique. It seems to not only meet all my ‘ideal’ criteria — simple, fast, elegant, respectful, easy, fun, and powe…

[ Vincent O ] >

Archive for: Unhappiness

+ What are we teaching our children about work?

[ Posted on 10.13.2017 ]

What are you broadcasting to your kids about work? Perhaps you love your job and regularly share accomplishments around the dinner table. Your kids are used to seeing you energetically tackle the workweek, coming home with plenty of energy for family time. Or, work is a black hole that you disappear into each Monday, stumbling home on Friday exhausted and disgruntled. Whether you love your job or hate it (and everything in between), what do you want to teach your children about work with your attitude and behavior? And if you have an unhappy relationship with work, can you really isolate that from your family? How much energy do you have for them when you are shut down over something that went wrong on the job? What are you teaching them about how you feel about them? Maybe you don’t have the perfect job. Maybe your boss can be a…

Read more

+ Is it bad to limit the self?

[ Posted on 04.25.2016 ]

I never really liked the expression “self-limiting”, as in self-limiting beliefs, although it does comes in handy to describe how we stop ourselves – block ourselves – stand in our own way.   I use the term myself for lack of something better, but in the back of my mind there is always a tugging thought – reminding me that whenever we limit ourselves in any way, we always believe it is the best thing to do at the time, given the circumstances.  Regardless of what we might say to ourselves at the time, we could never do this if we didn’t think it was a good idea.  And guess what? Who else could make this decision but a limitless self who is always available to decide when to stop and when to go. The essence of unhappiness is believing that I will limit myself to my own detriment.  That…

Read more

+ How do you treat your happiness?

[ Posted on 04.06.2016 ]

If you had a beloved child, How would you treat their happiness? Would you ever tell that child that there is something wrong with being happy? Would you ever tell that child that happiness is impossible? Would you ever tell that child to be unhappy in order to get what she wants? No, of course not. Then why do you tell yourself these things? If you had a beloved child, How would you treasure his happiness? Would you allow others to tell your child to stop being so happy? Would you allow others to chastise your child for expressing joy? Would you allow others to angrily push your child aside for being happy? No, of course not. Then why do you do this to yourself? If you had a beloved child, How would you take care of their happiness? Would you make your child’s happiness dependent on others? Would you…

Read more

+ Is Happiness Your Road Not Taken?

[ Posted on 09.14.2015 ]

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I, I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. I learned Robert Frost’s The Road Not Taken when I was a kid in grammar school and it has stayed with me all these years.   I especially love these last three lines, which for me, sum up what it means to follow your own heart, even if it leads you down an unfamiliar path.  I love to think about this within the context of happiness and unhappiness.  If you were presented with two paths in any given situation, one to happiness – the other to unhappiness – however you imagine it, which path do you think you would take? Most of us would probably say, I would always choose the path to happiness.  After all, who wouldn’t want to be happy?  Why would we ever choose otherwise?  Who…

Read more

+ Let it go

[ Posted on 05.05.2012 ]

You know what I mean. Let it go – that thing that is tugging at your happiness right now. Let it go – that dark cloud above your head. Let it go – that feeling of gloom, doom and despair. Let it go – that sense of something wrong. You have every reason in the world to feel exactly as you do. Love that you are doing the best you can do for yourself given the reasons that you have. Know your reasons. Be at peace with yourself. Then, let it go. Take that feeling, kiss it goodbye and blow it away into the universe. Imagine the whole world doing this and creating a huge airy cloud that shimmers in the light and disintegrates into the vastness of time. Any permission or justification you think you need – you already have. Look for it. Then let it go. Just feel…

Read more

Unhappiness is the belief that you’re not free.

[ Bruce Di Marsico ]