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If you have the least bit of unhappiness in your life then make every opportunity to learn from Wendy Dolber and Dr. Frank Mosca.

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Archive for: Unhappiness

+ Is it bad to limit the self?

[ Posted on 04.25.2016 ]

I never really liked the expression “self-limiting”, as in self-limiting beliefs, although it does comes in handy to describe how we stop ourselves – block ourselves – stand in our own way.   I use the term myself for lack of something better, but in the back of my mind there is always a tugging thought – reminding me that whenever we limit ourselves in any way, we always believe it is the best thing to do at the time, given the circumstances.  Regardless of what we might say to ourselves at the time, we could never do this if we didn’t think it was a good idea.  And guess what? Who else could make this decision but a limitless self who is always available to decide when to stop and when to go. The essence of unhappiness is believing that I will limit myself to my own detriment.  That…

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+ How do you treat your happiness?

[ Posted on 04.06.2016 ]

If you had a beloved child, How would you treat their happiness? Would you ever tell that child that there is something wrong with being happy? Would you ever tell that child that happiness is impossible? Would you ever tell that child to be unhappy in order to get what she wants? No, of course not. Then why do you tell yourself these things? If you had a beloved child, How would you treasure his happiness? Would you allow others to tell your child to stop being so happy? Would you allow others to chastise your child for expressing joy? Would you allow others to angrily push your child aside for being happy? No, of course not. Then why do you do this to yourself? If you had a beloved child, How would you take care of their happiness? Would you make your child’s happiness dependent on others? Would you…

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+ Is Happiness Your Road Not Taken?

[ Posted on 09.14.2015 ]

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I, I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. I learned Robert Frost’s The Road Not Taken when I was a kid in grammar school and it has stayed with me all these years.   I especially love these last three lines, which for me, sum up what it means to follow your own heart, even if it leads you down an unfamiliar path.  I love to think about this within the context of happiness and unhappiness.  If you were presented with two paths in any given situation, one to happiness – the other to unhappiness – however you imagine it, which path do you think you would take? Most of us would probably say, I would always choose the path to happiness.  After all, who wouldn’t want to be happy?  Why would we ever choose otherwise?  Who…

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+ Let it go

[ Posted on 05.05.2012 ]

You know what I mean. Let it go – that thing that is tugging at your happiness right now. Let it go – that dark cloud above your head. Let it go – that feeling of gloom, doom and despair. Let it go – that sense of something wrong. You have every reason in the world to feel exactly as you do. Love that you are doing the best you can do for yourself given the reasons that you have. Know your reasons. Be at peace with yourself. Then, let it go. Take that feeling, kiss it goodbye and blow it away into the universe. Imagine the whole world doing this and creating a huge airy cloud that shimmers in the light and disintegrates into the vastness of time. Any permission or justification you think you need – you already have. Look for it. Then let it go. Just feel…

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+ Flipping reality: Help someone to be happy today

[ Posted on 05.03.2012 ]

Help someone to be happy today without feeling bad for them or giving advice. How? Make your mind a clean slate. Throw out preconceived notions about what they are unhappy about or why. Know that nothing can make anyone unhappy. Nothing. Realize that if they are unhappy, they have their reasons. And, know that regardless of how unhappy they are, they can be happy. Then, just be with them and see what happens.   Share what you would like to share from the place of knowing that happiness is possible.  Then, ask whatever questions come to mind with the intention of helping them flip their unhappiness reality, with no expectations but total gratitude for whatever comes.  Most of all, flip your own unhappiness reality and show the world that happiness is possible. To your happiness, Wendy Dolber

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To be happy, know that even though you cannot imagine your happiness in the future, you don’t …

To be happy, know that even though you cannot imagine your happiness in the future, you don’t have to be unhappy today.

[ Bruce Di Marsico ]