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Our International Friendship Day Challenge

+ Our International Friendship Day Challenge

[ Posted on 07.09.2017 ]

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July 30th is International Friendship Day. What a great opportunity to celebrate our friendships and think about the ones that got away. We all lose friends over the years. Sometimes it is unavoidable as friends pass away. But many times, we lose friends because of what seems like irreconcilable differences, embarrassment over something we did or didn’t do, discomfort with a new significant other or we just let the relationship slip away due to neglect.

Perhaps you have lost a friend because of these or similar reasons (or are the lost friend yourself) and you want to rekindle the relationship. We’re here to help you do that with our National Friendship Day Challenge. Your challenge, should you choose to accept it, is to rekindle at least one friendship.

Join us on July 30th at noon EST to share stories of how you did just that.  Or perhaps you weren’t successful. Call in and be inspired by the stories of others. We’ll demonstrate how you can use The Option Method to let go of self defeating beliefs that are getting in the way of reconnecting and staying connected. During the next few weeks, try it yourself as a way to jumpstart and maintain any relationship:

Here’s how:

Before you reach out to your friend:

 Start with how you feel about your friend now – not how you used to feel about them. Get in touch with what you love about them and what you’d love to get out a renewed relationship with them.

Identify any negative feelings you have and work through them. For example, let’s say the friendship ended because you weren’t invited to your friend’s wedding.

Ask yourself how you feel about this now, today. It’s very possible that those old feelings just don’t hold true for you any longer. If you still feel bad, resolve it for yourself by asking the five Option Method questions designed to uncover exactly why you are feeling the way you do.

When you reach out to your friend, don’t lose sight of the importance of focusing on your own feelings. Chances are unresolved bad feelings on one or both sides of the relationship were responsible for the breakup in the first place. While you may have dealt with your bad feelings, it’s possible that your friend hasn’t. So keep in mind that if your friend is still upset with you:

Share your desire to be friends again and how you cleared your own emotional decks. Perhaps they will even be interested in using the questions for themselves.

 Let them know how you feel now, today, and are willing to start anew.

Don’t get caught up in rehashing the past.

Come together to the event and share your story!

Feel free to call us at 973-714-2800 to schedule a dialogue or ask questions.           

 

 

                               

 

True Happiness is not the happiness that is sought but the Happiness that already exists.

[ Bruce Di Marsico ]