We are all healers. Whether we heal with drugs and surgery, tinctures and potions, vitamins and herbs, hands on, intention setting, the mom with the baby aspirin, the caregiver administering medications, or just wishing someone well – we are all healers in some way. We heal others with our love, care, hugs and smiles. Some of us are more in touch with it than others, but consider this. Every time you hear a story of someone suffering and you want to help, you are part of the healing process. And of course, we are all self-healers, in ways we know about and without even thinking about it.
Many years ago I attended a healing workshop with Rev. Aristide Bruni. He told us something that has stuck in my mind ever since. “You can only heal what can be healed.” At the time I took that to mean that there are some illnesses that are too far gone to turn around, but today, I understand that teaching differently. I see healing as a relationship between the healer and the one being healed (sometimes just different parts of ourselves). For me, healing someone without consent (is that even possible?) ignores the oneness we all share. That completely changes the process of the healing dynamic. It puts the healer and the healed on an unequal footing when we are all part of one glorious whole. In a sense the person wanting healing has the lock and the healer has the key and visa versa.
The same is true when we are healing ourselves. The part or parts that need healing and the part or parts that do the healing are all of the same whole, although it may not feel that way. The compromised part of our bodies may feel like alien to us, but who or what is creating the alienation? If pain in the hip can cause us to disown it, so be it. But is that the truth? Better to understand our role in the cutting off process. Do we cut ourselves off from pain because we are afraid to feel it? Do we divorce an arthritic hip because we hate it for causing us so much pain? Identifying and releasing these feelings and the beliefs behind them is crucial to the healing process.
Desiring to heal or be healed is a powerful game changer on so many levels. Back in 2004 I was suffering from what seemed to be a progressively deteriorating condition which turned out to be a benign spinal tumor. Over a period of several months, I went from experiencing some vague tingling in my legs to three quarters of my body affected by severe neuropathy, spasm, rigidity, needing 4000 mg of Neurotin a day to function and barely able to walk. The tumor was large enough to almost completely crush the spinal cord in my thoracic spine, yet my first neurologist was unable to diagnose it properly. It was a very bad situation that came very close to being fatal.
What was critical for me during this time was dealing with any unhappiness related to the condition. Being an Option Method practitioner for so many years, I don’t tend to get unhappy in the first place. Whatever fears did come up, I took care of quickly by doing a dialogue. Not being unhappy gave me enormous freedom to get in touch with my desire to be healed. I knew that eliminating any unhappiness would be the best thing I could do to give myself the best chance to heal, not only from a cellular level, if that could be possible, but from a practical level. Every day I would send out a call for help, to whoever was out there to heal me. And whenever I could, I talked to everyone about my condition. There were so many people who were a part of the healing. The trainer who recognized it was a problem that we needed to spend the whole session stretching me out and referred to me a sports doctor who recognized an intractable condition and gave me a list of neurologists to seek out a second opinion. The neurologist who immediately recognized the problem was in the upper spine, not the lower spine, and sent me to the neurosurgeon who would successfully remove the tumor without leaving me paralyzed.
I learned so much from this healing crisis. What it’s like to deal with chronic pain. How the fear of pain is more about the fear of future pain than what is happening at the moment. How important it is to never accept a diagnosis we don’t believe in. How we can trust our knowing of what is going on in our bodies. How important it is to keep moving in whatever way is possible. And so important, how to allow ourselves to be healed in the way we want to be healed and to fully accept where we are at the moment. I had a dear friend who died of uterine cancer. She didn’t trust in chemotherapy opting for Vitamin C treatments and radiation. It didn’t work for her, but I know she was at peace with her decision. I was very attracted to homeopathy for my tumor and would have loved to be healed that way, but at the end of the day, I just couldn’t wholeheartedly go that way. I had to accept that and move on. I put myself in the hands of the surgeon with total confidence that he was my best chance to survive. There are no guarantees that any particular treatment will be the best for us. All we can really do is educate ourselves and make the choice that we believe is best.
If you are in a healing crisis, dealing with any negative beliefs about your illness, specifically how it affects your happiness and peace of mind, is something completely accessible to you at all times. The Option Method is specifically tailored to bring out those beliefs and is a tool that you can learn to use for yourself, as well as others in need of healing.