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+ Are you stuck between a rock and a hard place?

[ Posted on 08.02.2018 ]

You can’t seem to get started with that project, get up on time, lose those pounds.  You have problems making decisions, following through on commitments, throwing away those old newspapers.  You don’t know what to do about losing your job, your health insurance, or even your keys. All of these challenges can be strictly practical – a matter of figuring out what to do next, who to call, where to find information.  But when we find ourselves spinning our wheels and not getting anywhere, we might be stuck in the mud of our own emotional inertia.  Here’s an example. Sharon wants to make a decision about whether to go to law school or take a job offer at an internet company.  She collects all the information, talks to her friends, researches schools, but she still can’t bring herself to make a decision.  When she thinks about going to law school,…

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+ Does the way we think affect our ability to heal?

[ Posted on 07.18.2018 ]

  We are all healers. Whether we heal with drugs and surgery, tinctures and potions, vitamins and herbs, hands on, intention setting, the mom with the baby aspirin, the caregiver administering medications, or just wishing someone well – we are all healers in some way. We heal others with our love, care, hugs and smiles. Some of us are more in touch with it than others, but consider this. Every time you hear a story of someone suffering and you want to help, you are part of the healing process. And of course, we are all self-healers, in ways we know about and without even thinking about it. Many years ago I attended a healing workshop with Rev. Aristide Bruni. He told us something that has stuck in my mind ever since. “You can only heal what can be healed.” At the time I took that to mean that there…

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+ If you can’t be happy, can you be at peace?

[ Posted on 05.19.2018 ]

Okay, this is a trick question because we can always be happy, albeit only if we believe we can and only if we believe it’s a good idea. That’s called free will. We do have a choice about when we are happy and just how happy we want to be. Sometimes we’re okay. Sometimes we’re ecstatic. Sometimes we’re jubilant. Sometimes all is well with the world and we are at peace. We humans are brilliant about creating nuances of feeling that are just perfect for the situation and we don’t even have to think about it. But here is one situation where thinking about it can be freeing. When we realize that we are rejecting happiness because we believe it doesn’t serve us, that’s the time to reconsider your definition of happiness. Here’s an example from an Option Method dialogue. Alicia was extremely upset when her daughter stayed out all…

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+ How can we use our creativity to be happier people?

[ Posted on 04.12.2018 ]

  What does it mean to be a creative person?  Steve Jobs said it’s “just connecting things,” and the more dots or experiences we have to connect, the more creative we are.  John Cleese said “Creativity is not a talent. It’s a way of operating.”  Ray Bradbury said it’s “the art of muting the rational mind.”  All of that makes sense to me and it’s just the tip of the iceberg – the subject of creativity is vast.  Discussions and definitions abound throughout every discipline. While we have celebrated creative endeavors since the dawn of man, as a word, it did not come into being until a 17th century Polish poet, Maciej Kazimierz Sarbiewski, spoke of the poet as “creating anew,” even “in the manner of God.”  Thought of that way, everyone is creative. We all create anew every day in so many ways. Every time we do something a…

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+ The Only Resolution You’ll Ever Need

[ Posted on 12.14.2017 ]

As the New Year approaches and we begin to think about resolutions, we’re often looking at areas of our lives that seem out of balance – what we want more of and less of. Last January NBC News reported iQuanti statistics for Google searches on New Year’s resolutions (1). It’s not surprising that get healthy, get organized and live life to the fullest topped the chart, followed by learn new hobbies, spend less/save more, travel more and read more. While these are all great ideas, I am aware that New Year’s resolutions often dissolve into oblivion by February. Why is that? I suspect it might have something to do with the whole mental construct of making resolutions in the first place. Why do we need to create a resolution for something we know we want to do? I don’t need a resolution to wear clean clothes or go food shopping,…

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Unhappiness is any form of believing that when we don’t get what we want, it means we are goin…

Unhappiness is any form of believing that when we don’t get what we want, it means we are going to feel a way we don’t want.

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