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+ You and me and the Game of Thrones

[ Posted on 08.13.2017 ]

Families are notorious for typecasting. Sara is the negotiator but Robert knows has to get things done. Mary could sit and draw all day but Bill is a born salesman. Jack is great at sports but Sasha has a flare for writing. Part of growing up is finding out what we are good at and maybe not so good at. Certainly if no one tells us, we figure it out for ourselves as we try to figure ourselves out. Then we grow up and guess what? That typecasting tends to stick. We think of our family members as we have always thought of them and we think of ourselves the way we always have. Of course, we do grow and change. I used to think of myself as a physically weak because I was sick a lot as a child. That myth got blasted when I backpacked in Europe in…

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+ Is my emotional response to pain controllable?

[ Posted on 06.12.2017 ]

June is National¬†Migraine and Headache Awareness Month!¬† According to Migraine.com, there are about 100 million people with headaches in the U.S.; about 37 million of these people have migraines. The World Health Organization suggests that 18 percent of women and 7 percent of men in the U.S. suffer from migraines.¬† After back pain, which accounts for 27% of pain; headache pain accounts for 15%. Apparently we are a nation in pain. According to paindoctor.com, “pain affects more people in the US than diabetes heart disease and cancer combined. A whopping 126 million or 55% of all adults experienced pain in the past three months. And that’s just the pain that’s reported. I remember having migraines when I was in my late teens. There was little else I could do than lie in bed until it passed. Lucky for me, it was episodic and I never had to deal with them…

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+ Does positive thinking affect your health?

[ Posted on 04.18.2017 ]

Thank you, Jane Brody, for a wonderful article in the New York Times on how “Positive Emotions May Extend Life.”¬† Even an old saw such as “Look on the sunny side of life” has the potential to not only raise spirits, but also¬†boosts the immune system, lowers blood pressure, promotes healthier blood sugar and more. According to the article, even people faced with serious health crises such as H.I.V. and cancer can benefit markedly from positive thoughts and feelings. Many people assume that sickness and negative emotions go hand in hand, but a¬†study of 159 individuals with recent H.I.V. diagnoses showed that when trained in 8 positive thinking activities, participants maintained more positive and less negative thoughts. And for the curmudgeons of the world:¬† good news: studies show that people can learn to think positively even if they’re not exactly Little Mary Sunshine. It’s wonderful to see another article on…

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+ Does that thought spark joy?

[ Posted on 03.27.2017 ]

I love purging my possessions from time to time. In fact, I’ve made it part of my daily routine to reconsider many items in my path. Do I really want that cookbook I’ve never made one recipe from? What about those mugs I never use? And what even is that thing on the shelf? Yard sale! A couple of years ago a friend of mine quoted me just one line from Marie Kondo’s¬† The Life Changing Magic of Tidying up. The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing. She¬†suggests holding an object and asking, ‚ÄúDoes it spark joy?‚ÄĚ It’s amazing how just one sentence can resonate so profoundly. It’s now my mantra as I walk through my house. I’m not the only one who loves purging this way. It’s not surprising that Marie Kondo has become the rock star of decluttering and organizing. It feels so good to clear out the…

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+ Who’s in charge? Me or my mind!!

[ Posted on 01.17.2017 ]

If only we could control our minds. Wouldn’t we be invincible then? Nothing could get under our skin. No one could intimidate us. We wouldn’t be afraid of anything. Our emotions would never get away from us. We could bring all our brainpower to whatever we are doing. Maybe we’d even be able to heal ourselves and overcome pain and suffering at will. Wouldn’t we be happy then! Perhaps the idea of controlling our minds is like trying to control an “unruly” puppy.¬† It’s the puppy’s nature to want to play. Any responsible dog owner wouldn’t expect a puppy to sit still all day long. Why even have a puppy? Perhaps the very thing we want to control in our minds is exactly the thing that makes our minds so wonderful. Our minds wants to play, skip from one thought to the next, resurrect memories at will, free associate, make…

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People become unhappy by choice, belief, or judgment. They make a choice of what they’re going…

People become unhappy by choice, belief, or judgment. They make a choice of what they’re going to believe. If they choose to believe it is good, they will feel good. If they choose to believe it is bad, they feel bad. Why am I using the word “choice”? It’s the only thing in life that you can absolutely be sure is not happening to you.

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