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+ Your mother is calling. Are you listening?

[ Posted on 08.07.2017 ]

  I’m not someone who looks for signs from those who have passed on. But I do like to keep my antennae up just in case. My mother has been dead for over 15 years now and although I have experienced more openness to her, more understanding, more love, it tends to be a one way street. But after reading Marion Goldstein’s wonderful book, Embracing the Sign, A Journey of Faith, Science and Experience, I realized that there have been times when I’ve experienced uncanny occurrences that seemed like a tap on my shoulder from another plane of existence. For example, during a particularly contentious time with my sister, I just happened to find a letter my Mother wrote me many years prior. I was going through a stack of miscellaneous papers, which always seem to populate my desk, and it just emerged. In the letter, she thanked me for being…

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+ What is love?

[ Posted on 02.14.2017 ]

Enjoy this classic from Bruce M. Di Marsico on the kind of love we dream about. “To love is to be happy and do what you want. Be with.  Don’t be with. Smile.  Don’t smile. Be loving.  Don’t be loving. Be affectionate.  Don’t be affectionate. Give or say what you want. Take or ask for what you want. Do your own thing. If the one you love gets unhappy, it’s not because you are not loving them enough.  Their happiness does not depend on you.  If you find you want them to be happy, it is because you want it.  It’s not because you are a loving person or feel the need to prove to them that you are loving. You are loving if you are happy.  You will be loving if you are not afraid.” Read more

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+ Eight ways to jumpstart your new year

[ Posted on 12.31.2016 ]

As we say goodbye to 2016, we may already thinking about how to make 2017 the best year yet. Every new year, in fact, every day and every moment of the day, is a perfect opportunity to reassess what’s working and not working in our lives. Here are eight ideas that have served me well. I hope you find them helpful. One. Declutter your belief system. If this is the only thing you do, you will have an enormous leg up on everything else. We all have beliefs that reflect our values and mores, but when beliefs become self-limiting, it has a stifling effect on our happiness, well-being, creativity, productivity and spirituality. Behind every project you feel stuck on, behind your response to every challenge you face, behind every life change that is tripping you up, behind all negative emotions and lack of positive emotions, are your beliefs about how…

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+ Do you love the one you’re with?

[ Posted on 02.13.2016 ]

Love you much? What do you think about you? Would you say you’re your kind of person? Does thinking about you put a warm glow in your heart? Are you okay with you? In love with you? Your own best friend? Or, is that little jury in your inner courtroom always in session? Are you constantly judging and nagging, name-calling and chastising? Are you holding yourself at arm’s length until a better you comes along? Withholding love and acceptance for another day? Another lifetime? How’s that going? Does it matter whether we love ourselves or not? Isn’t that the job of others? Surely that’s one way of looking at it. But is it even possible to feel love, accept love, enjoy the love of others if we don’t love ourselves first? And when we withhold love from ourselves, don’t we often treat others the same way? Not a good set-up…

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+ What is happiness really for?

[ Posted on 09.22.2015 ]

Consider that it is important to separate happiness from the contemporary notion or model that happiness is somehow a useful tool to attain long life, health, clear mindedness, immunity from illness, cognitive decline, cancer etc. and etc. While there is truth to that, it is critical to understand that happiness is for the sake of happiness, not in any way for the sake of anything else, however desirable that state might be as a desideratum in life. All of that belongs to what we might want as we make our way through time/space. Science may indeed bring to fruition more robust ways to live in our bodies. Amen to that. Happiness is who we are; it is the alpha and the omega of our very being. You might live but an instant and in that instant is contained the potential for the fullness of the truth of your happiness. An…

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If you want to be happy, do not be unhappy now and be happy. If you don’t believe you can be h…

If you want to be happy, do not be unhappy now and be happy. If you don’t believe you can be happy now or can stop being unhappy now, use The Option Method to feel better.

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