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+ The Only Resolution You’ll Ever Need

[ Posted on 12.14.2017 ]

As the New Year approaches and we begin to think about resolutions, we’re often looking at areas of our lives that seem out of balance – what we want more of and less of. Last January NBC News reported iQuanti statistics for Google searches on New Year’s resolutions (1). It’s not surprising that get healthy, get organized and live life to the fullest topped the chart, followed by learn new hobbies, spend less/save more, travel more and read more. While these are all great ideas, I am aware that New Year’s resolutions often dissolve into oblivion by February. Why is that? I suspect it might have something to do with the whole mental construct of making resolutions in the first place. Why do we need to create a resolution for something we know we want to do? I don’t need a resolution to wear clean clothes or go food shopping,…

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+ Is it ever too late to be grateful?

[ Posted on 11.05.2017 ]

Growing up in my family we rarely expressed gratitude to each other – or any other positive feelings for that matter. It was the old school of family relationships – children should be seen and not heard. Adults don’t share feelings with children. I’m sure we felt gratitude. I know I did. When I came home from school to find my new Brownie uniform with beanie and red plastic purse. When my mother didn’t yell at me for having a temper tantrum and slamming a door so hard the glass shattered. When she bought me a typewriter (yes, I am that old) the Christmas before I left for college. I know I probably thanked my mother in some way. Excitement for the uniform – a sheepish little smile for the smashed glass – a hug for my Christmas present. But I’m not sure any of those times really qualify as…

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+ What are we teaching our children about work?

[ Posted on 10.13.2017 ]

What are you broadcasting to your kids about work? Perhaps you love your job and regularly share accomplishments around the dinner table. Your kids are used to seeing you energetically tackle the workweek, coming home with plenty of energy for family time. Or, work is a black hole that you disappear into each Monday, stumbling home on Friday exhausted and disgruntled. Whether you love your job or hate it (and everything in between), what do you want to teach your children about work with your attitude and behavior? And if you have an unhappy relationship with work, can you really isolate that from your family? How much energy do you have for them when you are shut down over something that went wrong on the job? What are you teaching them about how you feel about them? Maybe you don’t have the perfect job. Maybe your boss can be a…

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+ And Now A Word About Mindlessness

[ Posted on 09.10.2017 ]

  I’m about to admit something that could be potentially embarrassing but I do it gladly for all those who have had similar experiences. And, by the way, I’m not embarrassed – just bemused about the sometimes depth of my mindlessness. Last week I believed I locked myself out of my car, only to realize after AAA showed up and opened the door, that the key was not in fact in the car as I believed. To get to this point, I had to forget a whole raft of things related to the key. That I had put in it my purse. That I took my purse with me when we went to get ice cream. That I put the purse down on the floor while I ate the ice cream (so good!) and by the way, NEVER put your purse on the floor. That I walked away from the…

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+ How can we live in the present?

[ Posted on 09.10.2017 ]

One of the greatest yoga teachers of our time, B.K.S. Iyengar*, tells us: “Poets and wise men since the beginning of the written word have enjoined us in all culture to live in the present moment because it is all we really have.  Have you ever wondered, while watching nature films on television in which herds of beautiful gazelles are constantly surrounded by marauding predators, why their life is not a living hell of fear and insecurity? How can they live their family lives of courtship, procreation, joy in their own physical perfection, knowing that the inevitable end will be in the lion’s maw? You cannot say it is dull fatalism, or lack of imagination. If they lacked imagination why would they run away so fast? The answer must be that they have the capacity to live in the present moment as it is and not as it might be.…

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Unhappiness is the belief in the wrongness of being.

[ Bruce Di Marsico ]