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+ Is my emotional response to pain controllable?

[ Posted on 06.12.2017 ]

June is National Migraine and Headache Awareness Month!  According to Migraine.com, there are about 100 million people with headaches in the U.S.; about 37 million of these people have migraines. The World Health Organization suggests that 18 percent of women and 7 percent of men in the U.S. suffer from migraines.  After back pain, which accounts for 27% of pain; headache pain accounts for 15%. Apparently we are a nation in pain. According to paindoctor.com, “pain affects more people in the US than diabetes heart disease and cancer combined. A whopping 126 million or 55% of all adults experienced pain in the past three months. And that’s just the pain that’s reported. I remember having migraines when I was in my late teens. There was little else I could do than lie in bed until it passed. Lucky for me, it was episodic and I never had to deal with them…

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+ Who’s in charge? Me or my mind!!

[ Posted on 01.17.2017 ]

If only we could control our minds. Wouldn’t we be invincible then? Nothing could get under our skin. No one could intimidate us. We wouldn’t be afraid of anything. Our emotions would never get away from us. We could bring all our brainpower to whatever we are doing. Maybe we’d even be able to heal ourselves and overcome pain and suffering at will. Wouldn’t we be happy then! Perhaps the idea of controlling our minds is like trying to control an “unruly” puppy.  It’s the puppy’s nature to want to play. Any responsible dog owner wouldn’t expect a puppy to sit still all day long. Why even have a puppy? Perhaps the very thing we want to control in our minds is exactly the thing that makes our minds so wonderful. Our minds wants to play, skip from one thought to the next, resurrect memories at will, free associate, make…

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+ Eight ways to jumpstart your new year

[ Posted on 12.31.2016 ]

As we say goodbye to 2016, we may already thinking about how to make 2017 the best year yet. Every new year, in fact, every day and every moment of the day, is a perfect opportunity to reassess what’s working and not working in our lives. Here are eight ideas that have served me well. I hope you find them helpful. One. Declutter your belief system. If this is the only thing you do, you will have an enormous leg up on everything else. We all have beliefs that reflect our values and mores, but when beliefs become self-limiting, it has a stifling effect on our happiness, well-being, creativity, productivity and spirituality. Behind every project you feel stuck on, behind your response to every challenge you face, behind every life change that is tripping you up, behind all negative emotions and lack of positive emotions, are your beliefs about how…

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+ What to do when you predict the worst.

[ Posted on 10.04.2016 ]

“Unhappiness is predicting what you don’t want to predict.” Bruce M. Di Marsico. (The Myth of Unhappiness, Vol. 2) If you are feeling bad, look to see what you are predicting that you don’t want to predict. Since we don’t have a crystal ball and really have no idea what the future holds, why imagine the worst? Being in the dark can be truly freeing, so why torture ourselves? I have a headache. It must be brain cancer. My son is late for dinner. He must have gotten into an accident. My boss wants to have a meeting with me. I bet I’m getting fired. I’m not saying we should all think positively. Forcing ourselves to believe that things are going to be okay will never work if we already believe the opposite. So why do we make dire predictions? What’s in it for us?  Imagine for a moment that…

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+ What are you holding on to when you hold on to anger?

[ Posted on 05.17.2016 ]

Time heals all wounds, or so it is said. Think about a time when you grieved every day over the loss of a loved one. Think about something that made you so angry you couldn’t stop thinking about it. What about that embarrassing moment so long ago that you thought you would never get over? Do you still feel the same way today? Chances are as with so many things, with time, things change, memories fade and we move on. Unless we don’t. You’re fine until the anniversary of the death of a loved one. You’re at peace until someone reminds you about that thing that made you so angry. You find yourself sharing in the embarrassment of others a little too empathically. If time truly heals all wounds, why are we still suffering? With time, new experiences and the relevancy of the event to daily life, we do move…

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It just so happens that when people realize they have a choice in their emotions, it makes a differe…

It just so happens that when people realize they have a choice in their emotions, it makes a difference to them. People know they don’t want to be unhappy when they don’t believe it is necessary.

[ Bruce Di Marsico ]