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+ Is my emotional response to pain controllable?

[ Posted on 06.12.2017 ]

June is National Migraine and Headache Awareness Month!  According to Migraine.com, there are about 100 million people with headaches in the U.S.; about 37 million of these people have migraines. The World Health Organization suggests that 18 percent of women and 7 percent of men in the U.S. suffer from migraines.  After back pain, which accounts for 27% of pain; headache pain accounts for 15%. Apparently we are a nation in pain. According to paindoctor.com, “pain affects more people in the US than diabetes heart disease and cancer combined. A whopping 126 million or 55% of all adults experienced pain in the past three months. And that’s just the pain that’s reported. I remember having migraines when I was in my late teens. There was little else I could do than lie in bed until it passed. Lucky for me, it was episodic and I never had to deal with them…

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+ What is love?

[ Posted on 02.14.2017 ]

Enjoy this classic from Bruce M. Di Marsico on the kind of love we dream about. “To love is to be happy and do what you want. Be with.  Don’t be with. Smile.  Don’t smile. Be loving.  Don’t be loving. Be affectionate.  Don’t be affectionate. Give or say what you want. Take or ask for what you want. Do your own thing. If the one you love gets unhappy, it’s not because you are not loving them enough.  Their happiness does not depend on you.  If you find you want them to be happy, it is because you want it.  It’s not because you are a loving person or feel the need to prove to them that you are loving. You are loving if you are happy.  You will be loving if you are not afraid.” Read more

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+ What is the one truth of your happiness?

[ Posted on 01.30.2017 ]

“The Upanishads say ‘Ekam sat, vipraha bahudha vadanti,’ meaning ‘Truth is one. Seers express it in many ways.’ (The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali by Sri Swami Satchidananda). As I was reading this today I thought, we all express the truth of our happiness in many ways, but the truth of happiness is one truth.  The expressions of happiness may be our definition of what it is and where it comes from. For one, the truth of happiness may lie in the well-being of family; for another, in the acquisition of wealth; for others, in having good health, a good place to live, friends to count on; for others, in communion with God, living in union with nature; being connected to others. For some, simply the absence of unhappiness in all its forms. Or the expressions of happiness may be in the feelings associated with it: peace, joy, being okay, exuberance, love…

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+ Eight ways to jumpstart your new year

[ Posted on 12.31.2016 ]

As we say goodbye to 2016, we may already thinking about how to make 2017 the best year yet. Every new year, in fact, every day and every moment of the day, is a perfect opportunity to reassess what’s working and not working in our lives. Here are eight ideas that have served me well. I hope you find them helpful. One. Declutter your belief system. If this is the only thing you do, you will have an enormous leg up on everything else. We all have beliefs that reflect our values and mores, but when beliefs become self-limiting, it has a stifling effect on our happiness, well-being, creativity, productivity and spirituality. Behind every project you feel stuck on, behind your response to every challenge you face, behind every life change that is tripping you up, behind all negative emotions and lack of positive emotions, are your beliefs about how…

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+ What to do when you predict the worst.

[ Posted on 10.04.2016 ]

“Unhappiness is predicting what you don’t want to predict.” Bruce M. Di Marsico. (The Myth of Unhappiness, Vol. 2) If you are feeling bad, look to see what you are predicting that you don’t want to predict. Since we don’t have a crystal ball and really have no idea what the future holds, why imagine the worst? Being in the dark can be truly freeing, so why torture ourselves? I have a headache. It must be brain cancer. My son is late for dinner. He must have gotten into an accident. My boss wants to have a meeting with me. I bet I’m getting fired. I’m not saying we should all think positively. Forcing ourselves to believe that things are going to be okay will never work if we already believe the opposite. So why do we make dire predictions? What’s in it for us?  Imagine for a moment that…

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It just so happens that when people realize they have a choice in their emotions, it makes a differe…

It just so happens that when people realize they have a choice in their emotions, it makes a difference to them. People know they don’t want to be unhappy when they don’t believe it is necessary.

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