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+ Can The Option Method help with guilt and shame?

[ Posted on 02.16.2018 ]

Our focus this month has been on guilt and shame, two sides of the coin of self judgment.  Do you know the difference?  Check out Google “What is the difference between Guilt and Shame?”  and you will find more than 10 million entries. Brene Brown has a simple way to define it: “the difference between shame and guilt is the difference between ‘I am bad’ and ‘I did something bad’.” I’d go further and say both guilt and shame stem from the belief that I am bad.  Saying I did something bad – in the sense that we feel guilty (or bad) about it, is the same as saying I am bad. Otherwise we would never feel bad about it. We would simply observe – Oh I did something that caused xyz to happen. Think about something you feel guilty about and ask yourself this question: If I didn’t feel…

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+ What is your new beginning?

[ Posted on 01.14.2018 ]

Please join me in celebrating new beginnings as 2018 unfolds. What is your new beginning? Are you starting a new job, a new relationship, a new chapter in your life? Are you taking on new responsibilities or moving away from old ones? Are you learning a new skill, changing your diet, setting off on a journey? Or will you celebrate the new beginning that every moment brings? Whatever your new beginning is, know that you bring to it everything you need to have to do it in a way that is “perfect” for you. And by perfect, I mean simply, you bring you to every moment. With all your skills, talents and intentions – and yes, with all your foibles and issues. What else can you do? There is no such thing as not good enough. There is only enough – enough to do what you do in a way…

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+ The Book of Is! How to be Guided by Being now available

[ Posted on 01.13.2018 ]

I am pleased to announce that The Book of Is! How to be Guided by Being by Frank Mosca, PhD is now available on Amazon. We have produced a Kindle version, as well as a paperback. This little gem is for anyone who wants to explore the nature of Being and the boundless possibilities for happiness that is our essence. In these times of fear-mongering and alienation, here is something that will feed your spirit and infuse your heart with hope and joy. Frank Mosca was my beloved friend and colleague. I had the joy of working with him for several years in our mutual desire to spread Option Method teachings as created by Bruce Di Marsico. We were both passionate that the essential core and practice of the teaching be preserved because they dive right to the heart of all we need to know about what Frank calls Being/Freedom/Happiness.…

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+ Is my emotional response to pain controllable?

[ Posted on 06.12.2017 ]

June is National Migraine and Headache Awareness Month!  According to Migraine.com, there are about 100 million people with headaches in the U.S.; about 37 million of these people have migraines. The World Health Organization suggests that 18 percent of women and 7 percent of men in the U.S. suffer from migraines.  After back pain, which accounts for 27% of pain; headache pain accounts for 15%. Apparently we are a nation in pain. According to paindoctor.com, “pain affects more people in the US than diabetes heart disease and cancer combined. A whopping 126 million or 55% of all adults experienced pain in the past three months. And that’s just the pain that’s reported. I remember having migraines when I was in my late teens. There was little else I could do than lie in bed until it passed. Lucky for me, it was episodic and I never had to deal with them…

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+ What is love?

[ Posted on 02.14.2017 ]

Enjoy this classic from Bruce M. Di Marsico on the kind of love we dream about. “To love is to be happy and do what you want. Be with.  Don’t be with. Smile.  Don’t smile. Be loving.  Don’t be loving. Be affectionate.  Don’t be affectionate. Give or say what you want. Take or ask for what you want. Do your own thing. If the one you love gets unhappy, it’s not because you are not loving them enough.  Their happiness does not depend on you.  If you find you want them to be happy, it is because you want it.  It’s not because you are a loving person or feel the need to prove to them that you are loving. You are loving if you are happy.  You will be loving if you are not afraid.” Read more

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Unhappiness is the belief that unhappiness can and will happen in the future.

[ Bruce Di Marsico ]