Iâ€™m about to admit something that could be potentially embarrassing but I do it gladly for all those who have had similar experiences. And, by the way, Iâ€™m not embarrassed â€“ just bemused about the sometimes depth of my mindlessness. Last week I believed I locked myself out of my car, only to realize after AAA showed up and opened the door, that the key was not in fact in the car as I believed. To get to this point, I had to forget a whole raft of things related to the key. That I had put in it my purse. That I took my purse with me when we went to get ice cream. That I put the purse down on the floor while I ate the ice cream (so good!) and by the way, NEVER put your purse on the floor. That I walked away from the table without my purse. And thereâ€™s more, but you get the picture.
So what did happen? How could I be so mindless? As I thought over how this had happened, I realized two things. First, Iâ€™m allowed to be mindless, but there may be consequences. Second, if there are consequences, the last thing I want to do is perpetuate the same mindlessness that got me into trouble in the first place. As soon as I believed I had locked myself out of the car, I also locked myself out of my mind. Yes, I was clicking along ticking off my various options. Call the police. Nada. Call AAA. Bingo. They were there in a jiff. But if I had just taken Carlos Castanedaâ€™s Don Juanâ€™s advice: â€śIn order to stop the world, you must stop doing,â€ť I would have taken a wholly different path. Instead of feverously trying to fix the problem, all I really needed to do was stop, reconstruct and remember.
I would have done that if I wasnâ€™t so intensely concentrated on making the problem disappear. Of course, I wanted to fix it. There were other people involved. It was at the end of a long (and fun) day, but we still had an hourâ€™s drive home. But I was a little too much in the â€śI have to fix this NOWâ€ť camp rather than â€śletâ€™s just figure this out.â€ť
I love it that there is so much out there these days about mindfulness. Google mindfulness and youâ€™ll find 28,000,000 entries robust with definitions, workshops, worksheets, seminars, apps, exercises, activities, and techniques. Thatâ€™s great because we need all the help we can get. I see mothers pushing baby carriages across the street actually looking at their cell phones; people texting and talking while driving; crossing the street without any awareness of traffic (even without a cell phone). In my opinion, we are still light years away from truly being mindful. Itâ€™s wonderful that we feel safe within the confines of our own little worlds, but weâ€™re missing so much and we could be losing so much.
If youâ€™re feeling mindless, distracted, or stressed, let us help you learn to use The Option Method to â€śstop the worldâ€ť and free your mind.